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Tips On How To Potty Train A Toddler Stress Free

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I think it’s safe to say every parent awaits the day that their child will finally learn to use the potty on their own. The day that you can finally pack away diapers for good. One of the things that parents spent searching the internet is how to potty train their toddlers.

My husband and I bought Aiden an Elmo potty chair when he was just about 6 months old. His feet could barely even touch the floor. We figured, why not give him a head start, what do we have to lose. 


The first couple of times he would sit there for fun, of course because he had no idea what it was for. When he finally figured out what it was for, he ran away from the potty as fast as he could. We were stomped and couldn’t understand, however we were not giving up. It was then that we decided to try something else. We bought him an IKEA toilet seat thinking it may be a better fit. To our surprise, nothing changed. He would sit on there and smile, and only pee in it once in a blue moon.

tossig-toilet-seat-green__0278143_pe417614_s4When Aiden turned 3, the number one question people asked me was, “Is he potty trained yet?” When I answered with “Nope,” they were shocked at why he wasn’t. It almost seemed like turning 3 was the magical age when all children just happened to be potty trained. Well, that magic did not happen in our home. Aiden was still not interested in using the potty on his own.

I asked questions in mommy groups, read articles online, listened to advice from people but none of their suggested methods worked. I remember someone telling me “Let him run around the house naked, it really helped my son.” Do you know what happened when I tried to implement that? I spent my days cleaning poop and pee all over the house. After trying that for a few days, it was starting to make the entire process stressful for both Aiden and I. I then told my husband “Nope, Nope, Nope, bring back the diapers asap. He needs it.” Basically, I was just stressing myself out for nothing. I dreamed about how much easier it would be not to pack diapers and wipes when going out and especially when traveling.

Then I started to question why it was called potty training. Was I really training him, or was he learning? Obviously all the training I was doing wasn’t working, so I figured this was something he had to “Learn On His Own”. At that point I stopped trying and simply told him “Aiden, when you finally learn how to use the potty, I promise I will take you to Thomas Land.” For a child who is obsessed with Thomas the Train, Thomas Land is a dream come true. 

We were in the middle of a move at this time, so I gave away Aiden’s Elmo potty chair and IKEA potty seat and invested in the NextStep Adult Toilet Seat with Built-in Child Potty Training SeatMy husband installed it with ease in all 3 bathrooms in our home. I highly recommend it. Click Here to check it out and read other reviews about it.

14509328_10101848009670906_173461652_nA month or so after my Thomas land promise and daily reminders to use the potty, at 3yrs and 4 months, Aiden came up to me and said “Mom, I need to pee on the potty.” I was happy, but I didn’t want to get too excited just in case it turned out to be a one-time thing. Thankfully it wasn’t. In a week he had fully learned how to use the potty (with reminders of course), during the day and night, and the diapers were gone for good. He went from Diapers to Underwear. We did not spend a dime on Pull-Ups. He was even brave enough to tell me “Mom, diapers are for baby Avery”. (Avery is his baby cousin)

Below are the lessons I learned from this potty training / potty learning experience:

  1. Patience is Key
  2. Don’t stress about your child being potty trained, it will eventually click
  3. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your child not being potty trained
  4. Don’t compare your child with other children or their siblings as every child hits different milestones at different times

I truly believe that children will learn to use the potty when they are ready. At their own time and at their own pace, not when you want them to. Of course you have to play an active role in the process by encouraging them and guiding them, however it will click in when they are ready!


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  1. Christelle
    September 28, 2016 / 8:25 pm

    Great post Karen! 🙂

  2. Vanessa M
    September 29, 2016 / 1:27 am

    Thank God! Makes me feel much better because potty training JJ has been a struggle and his teacher kept saying the kids should be ready by 3 and I’m like that’s in 2 months!

    • October 21, 2016 / 8:14 am

      I’m surprised his teacher will say that. She should know every child is different and don’t reach milestones at the same age.

  3. Taylor
    September 30, 2016 / 4:14 am

    I love this post!! I’m going through the exact same thing right now! My son is almost 3 and im constantly getting put down because he’s not using the potty yet. Patience is key. I’ve learned that! Thanks for this?

    • October 21, 2016 / 8:13 am

      Taylor, YES! Patience is key. Don’t feel pressured in any way. He will do it when he is ready!

  4. Yvonne O.
    December 6, 2016 / 10:29 pm

    My 2 year old screams when I mention potty or toilet. It makes me feel bad, I have tried everything. I even began to doubt my skills, but then I potty trained my son by 2. I have decided to let her be, it will.happen when it does.

  5. Bryan Vice
    July 23, 2017 / 4:13 pm

    Definitely needed to read were having a tough time potty training our soon Jazon

    • July 26, 2017 / 9:01 pm

      Hey Bryan, glad you came across my post. The key is to remember kids will learn to use the potty when they are ready! 🙂 Take it easy and let them take the lead.

  6. September 1, 2017 / 2:40 am

    I have seen such a difference in the potty training acceptance of my two grandchildren who are only 2 months apart….it is not a perfect one fits all solution

  7. April 5, 2018 / 12:39 pm

    This is exactly where we are right now. Thanks for sharing this. It’s less stressful than I assumed it would be.

  8. Dean Phillips
    March 6, 2019 / 1:27 am

    I thought it was great how you mentioned that when you are potty training your child patience is key and you should not stress about your child being potty trained. My son is almost 2 years old which means we have been trying to teach him how to use a toilet when he needs to go to the bathroom. We have been struggling to teach him how to properly do it, so it would be great if we could find a course or a book that could teach us how to better train him to use the toilet.

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