This post may contain affiliate links. By clicking on any of the links below, I may get a commission if you make a purchase at absolutely no additional charge to you. This helps offset the costs of running this blog & I appreciate your support. Please see my privacy & disclosure policy for more.
Too much has been going on lately! As the mother of a black boy I have been struggling to deal with the emotions that come with dealing with police brutality and the constant killing of black people and especially black men who did not deserve to die.
If you don’t watch the news, or live under a rock, read these articles below:
- Getting killed by police is a leading cause of death for young black men in America
- After Ferguson, black men still face the highest risk of being killed by police
- Ahmaud Arbery killing being investigated as federal hate crime, family attorney says
- Black Man Lynched In Broad Daylight By 4 Police Officers
Below is a letter I wrote because of my frustration with everything!!
Dear White People,
I have just ONE question for you. Just one question, and that’s it.
📍 At what age does this BLACK BOY become a threat to you and your family? At what point in his life do you write him off as dangerous? At what point do you tell your kids that he is problematic and they shouldn’t be friends with him??????
You’ll comment “awe” and “how cute”, right now, but be honest with me. Tell me when the “awe and how cute” becomes “hello 911, there’s a black kid doing xyz or hello 911, there’s a black guy here and he isn’t supposed to be here”.
Please tell me !!!!!!
I really wanted to share this photo of Aiden, but this is not the caption I had in mind 😔. But with everything going on, I can’t help but look at his beautiful face and wonder what you see when you look at him that bothers you SO much that you want to see him gone!!! Because we obviously you see something that I don’t.
A lot of people avoid this conversation and topic, but I won’t. Unfollow me if you want to 🤷🏾♀️. But if me talking about this and asking these questions make you uncomfortable, then I’m doing something right. I need you to feel uncomfortable enough to evaluate yourself.
I need you to be so uncomfortable that you decide that is time to have these conversations with your children, your spouse, your friends, your family. I need you to be uncomfortable enough that you decide to do something about it. I need you to be uncomfortable A.F. !!!!!!!!!!!
I talk to my son about every race and make sure he understands that we are all different but made in God’s image and we absolutely don’t judge anyone based on the color of their skin. I hope you’ll do the same when you talk to your kids. If we all do it, I promise you’ll see a difference.
The Frustrated Mother Of A Black Boy
If you are wondering how to start the conversation with your children, here is a link to a list of books below that can help.
View this post on Instagram
𝐈 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐀 𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 …. [SAVE THIS & SHARE IT] Yes I’m still talking about it. Are you uncomfortable yet? Miss me with that “I have a black friend / I have a black spouse / I have a black child / I have a black dog (etc) so I’m not racist” narrative. Someone said, “I had a black friend in college, I promise I’m not racist.” Another said “I have a black child, how can I be rascist?” 🤦🏾♀️ Girl BYE!!!!!! In case you didn’t realize, having a black “anything” doesn’t automatically make you not racist. It takes a lot more that. Not saying that everyone with a black kid/spouse etc is racist or has racist tendencies, but trust, but I have come across a few. It takes a lot more than having a black anything not to be racist. What are you doing in your everyday life to change the narrative??? Ask yourself this question and evaluate yoursef. And please don’t tell me “I don’t see color and my kids don’t either”. Unless you are all color blind we all see color. However do you see past color? Or do you see color and automatically make assumptions? I do see color, my son sees color. I teach my son about all the beautiful people in the world and how God created each of us to be so unique and amazing. AND I also teach him to look PAST color and remember never to make any assumption of anyone or any race or any group of people ever. He knows never to judge anyone by the color of their skin, but get to know them and judge them by the content of their character (MLK). Sometimes YOU, yes YOU, can’t even teach your kids how do this because you can’t do it. But urge you to start somewhere. PS: Link in bio for some kid age appropriate books you can start with. And also, I see all those who are remaining silent during this time 👀. Especially people who have the ability to use their influence in a positive manner but choose not to 🙄.
What are you doing to make a difference?
What are you doing to change the narrative?