Aiden has natural hair, and taking care of it has been a challenge for me. Trying to figure out the best products for natural hair, keeping his hair moisturized and healthy has been trial and error. I have had a perm in my hair for as long as I can remember so my hair care is completely different from Aiden’s.
Never in a million years did I think I would write a blog post about natural hair care (Hello there Motherhood). I can barely figure out how to take care of my own hair. I am by no means an expert at all, and I am still learning as I go. But I figured I’d share a few things that work for us in the hopes that they may work for you also.
As you can see, Aiden didn’t have much hair when he was born.
Before Aiden turned one, he had more hair on the top than on the sides. One of the main reasons why we decided to cut the sides only. It was a nice style and looked great on him.
7 months old with a faux-hawk
On Aiden’s first birthday, my husband gave him his first hair cut. I am not sure the background behind the tradition, but I was told that boys needed to get their first hair cut when they turned one. He didn’t have much hair, so we decided to take down a little on the side and leave the top part alone.
first birthday hair cut
as you can see, his faux-hawk style fit him well
What we routinely did was give him a line up, and take down the sides. Aiden didn’t really like getting his hair cut, so one day, I decided why even bother? I’ll just let his hair grow.
The top part was already quite longer, so we decided to let the sides catch up
the shrinkage is real
Aiden was excited about his hair growth, so I knew letting it grow was the right choice
Okay, now time for what we do and what we use:-
I wash his hair with Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo about once a month. I don’t want to strip his hair of it’s natural oils, so I don’t shampoo it often. Also his hair doesn’t get very dirty so there is no need for me to shampoo more often than once a month.
towel dry after shampoo so that when you apply a wash out conditioner, the hair will soak it up as much as possible
I condition Aiden’s hair almost every other day. We go through A LOT of conditioner. I use more conditioner on his hair than I would ever imagine using on mine, lol.
A. Wash Out Condition
Sometimes I condition his hair during bath time, or in the sink if he’s already had his bath. He usually lays on a changing pad, (Summer Infant Contoured Changing Pad). We’ve had it since he was a newborn. I am glad I didn’t get rid of it because we still use it often.
I wet his hair, apply a wash out conditioner (lots of it), work it in, let it sit for a few minutes, part it, and then comb/brush/detangle. This is quite a process and Aiden doesn’t like it very much. (This is were my phone or his tablet comes in handy).
Aiden: No Mom No, I don’t want to comb my hair.
Me: Papa, you have to choose – Comb or Cut?
Aiden: Comb Mom.
A few of the wash out conditioners I love the most are:
- Suave Naturals Conditioner – Tropical Coconut
- Aussie 3 Minute Miracle Moist Deeeeep Conditioner
- Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner
- TRESemme Flawless Curls Curl Hydrating Conditioner
B. Leave in Conditioner
After rinsing out the wash out conditioner, I then apply a leave in conditioner. I prefer the thick ones that are like a cream/pudding.
I don’t apply all of these leave in conditioners at once. I have them because I have tried several to find the best one for his hair. The one that ensures that his hair stays moisturized. These below all made the cut:
- Carols Daughter Hair Milk Nourishing & Conditioning Styling Pudding
- Cantu Shea Butter for Natural Hair Coconut Curling Cream
- Dark and Lovely Au Natural Anti-Breakage Super Softening Hair Butter
- SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie
- SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curling Gel Souffle ( I use this with any any of the four listed above)
And my favorite and # 1 of all
I always apply coconut oil to Aiden’s hair. I don’t recommend using it on it’s own. It has to be used in conjunction with a leave in conditioner.
After applying a leave in conditioner as well as coconut oil, I run my fingers through it and let him wear his hair like that or I brush and put it in a bun, or I have someone braid it for me.
I prefer his hair in a protective style (bun or braid) because it reduces the amount of combing/detangling I have to do. His hair tangles so much easier when he wears it just natural.
A. Wild Curls
“I’ve got crazy hair” – Aiden
“Brush it Mom, it’s better” – Aiden
“I like it Mom, but I like my hair to be longer” – Aiden
A FEW extra TIPS
- This Kids Satin Bonnet is awesome and reduces the amount of of tangling that occurs. Aiden’s hair is very curly, so avoiding a tangle mess is what we strive for. He has no problem wearing this and keeping it on.
- If you have a younger kid who won’t keep it on, I highly suggest a Satin Pillowcase.
- If you happen to find yourself struggling with a tangled mess:
- Use this awesome, easy DIY (do it yourself) tick. One tablespoon of Apple Cider Vinegar and one cup of water. Mix both, put it in a spray bottle, spray hair, rub it in the hair with your fingers to activate and voila! This actually works better than any store bought detangler.
- If you do prefer a store bought detangler, Kinky-Curly Knot Today Leave In Conditioner/Detangler to the rescue.
- Always remember to detangle before you try to comb/brush.
- Brushes – Denman Cushion Brush Nylon Bristles, 9-Row and Detangling Brush – Glide Thru Detangler Hair Comb or Brush work really well.
Bath time photos
post bath shrinkage
How do you take care of you/your child’s natural hair?
Please share below in the comment section. I am always eager to learn something new. 🙂